I went through the book not once, but three times. The first time through, I was intimidated by the exercises. I was being asked to tap into memories and feelings I had spent nearly all of my adult life repressing. I did it though, with courage and determination, but I didn’t give it 100%. My second time through, I was a little more open to it, and by the third time, I noticed wonderful things starting to happen. It was as though there was a neon sign above my head, saying that my heart was open for business. No, I didn’t meet the man of my dreams, but I did start attracting truly beautiful people into my life.
I had always had a close circle of very dear friends, friends who have known me for many years. For a newcomer to come into my life, was near impossible. But I opened myself up, I started trusting, I started surrendering, and as a result, I have an amazing group of women in my life today; strong, caring, supportive women who have completely changed my life for the better.
I sometimes watch those reality shows, such as the “Housewives,” more out of a morbid curiosity than anything. It truly saddens me that what these shows are promoting is an intrinsic ugliness amongst women. One hundred years ago, when the men were off to war, women turned to one another for nurturing. So then, how did we become our own worst enemies? After reading Woodward Thomas’s book, I realize now that it all comes from within us. We take our insecurities out on others instead of trying to find the seed within ourselves that planted the roots of jealousy and anxiety. We must first be able to nurture and support ourselves before we are able to nurture and support others.
I make it my mission every day to tell at least one friend how beautiful and how important they are, and especially, how grateful I am that they’re in my life. This not only makes them feel better, it makes me feel better as well since I start believing it about myself. When we see ugliness within ourselves, we see ugliness in others. When we see beauty, our friends seem to have an ethereal glow. That is a true friendship.